StacyCat’s World of Thought

This was the title of one of my KinkForAll presentations. I taped it, and may put it up shortly.

I do have some extra information, and some errata.

A question was asked about how long Hepatitis lives on surfaces. From
a few different sources, it seems as up to 4 days. One study (animal testing) found
that dried samples were still infectious at 16 hours, and possibly up
to 4 days, but not longer than that.

I have a few sources about infection rates of different STIs, and I will
get them into a blog post soon

I do want to correct a statistic. According to am HIV per act risk paper, the per act risk of HIV
transmission by an anally receptive partner with an HIV infected Top
is five in 1000, not 1 in 1000. I apologize. In any case, the article is a fascinating (at least to me, being a statistics geek) study in how to quantify risk acts, and our choices of partners and activities.

Kinkforall is coming up again! #KFANYC2

I will be there, though may have to leave early. And, I have no idea what to present on.

Though, I love the concept. A while ago, I attended a panel discussion on the difference between BDSM and Leather. It seemed very elitist to me, and I didnt like it. One of the comments was “BDSM lets anybody teach.”

Damn right! The whole concept behind KinkForAll is that 1) all of us have valuable information to share and present, and 2) the 20 minute time frame forces us to condense our information into a small time frame, so of course it is not going to teach anything. Which is the point of why BDSM does so much education. Really, its not necessarily to be the end all be all of what you need to know. Rather, it is a spark, of seeing our interests and then finding out where we need to go to learn more. You will not learn suspension in one non participatory class, but you will learn basic safety, and where to go for more information.

(end rant)

I had a dream last night that I was attempting to give my STI class with Wendy Blackheart, and it did not work, because I was waiting for her to talk about anal, and she was pressuring me to talk about STIs, and then the participants started heckling both of us!

I think I want to do a Body Image and acceptance class. Like a size acceptance 101 in the BDSM scene.

I might give the STI class just talking about how people think about STIs and their perceptions of how it impacts their lives and their sexual choices.

I might give a discussion to talk about the future of sex professionals, like sex therapists, counselors, Kink aware professionals, etc. It would be a fun discussion, but I am unsure how to word it so that it is not about sex work. Which is awesome that there is the environment that sex workers are appreciated and respected But it is not quite the target audience.

I have been prompted to do an academic sex presentation, like how to do academic research with sexually oriented subjects. I do feel inadequate in this area, but it might dovetail with the above.

Any other suggestions?

As my Twitter said: I am such a dork. I get a hitachi stuck inside me, and all I can think about is “This is so going on the blog.”

And, yes, I thought that while it was happening.

My partner had finished fucking me, but I had not had an orgasm yet. I came earlier today, so I knew it would be hard to orgasm during intercourse, but I wanted one after he was finished.

I asked for the hitachi. My partner cornered me in the crook of his arm and neck, so I could not see anything. He started in on biting my neck while holding the hitachi to my clit.

I asked for my silicone dildo. Its small, well, about five inches.. He put it inside me, and kept with the hitachi on my clit. After a few, he took the hitachi and put it on the base of the dildo. It felt amazing. I asked him to bite me, and that was yummy ( I am exploring orgasms with pain

And, ya know, after that, it got a bit fuzzy. I felt pressure, and I felt vibrations. I even felt my cervix vibrating (interesting experience.) I thought the dildo was still inside me, so I asked him to take it out.

“Its out of you, you pushed it out a while ago.”

Hmm. I asked, “Is the hitachi all the way in me?” He asked “Can you not feel it?”

After a few more minutes of that, I came. Very hard. It was awesome.

And then? It was stuck. Now, granted, fists and hitachis can’t get stuck inside someone, it goes in and it can come out. During orgasm and muscle contractions, the vagina can make a semi vacuum. In this instance, it is a so called simple proposition for the vagina holder to push, and then even large objects can come free.

It does not take into account the exhaustion felt after thirty minutes of fucking and a good ten to fifteen minutes of a powerful hitachi on ones parts. I was so exhausted after the sex and the orgasms, the thought of pushing was out of reach.

Until it started hurting. Then I could push.

My cunt hurts. But it was awesome!

Posted January 7th, 2007

Wow.

Normally, I dont find myself in the middle of two beautiful women. Apparently, one of my friends that collects women (in a good way) has hyped me up to the point that I am almost automatically accepted with whomever he dates. So, joining them while naked on the floor is an okay occurrence. (I always check with them, if not occupied, or with my other friend to make sure its okay before just jumping in.)

I went to a BDSM party last night. I started the night beating my friends ass, then putting (and taking off, and pulling off) clothespins from his cock and balls. There is just something very erotic about causing pain to someone else (with their consent, of course). Of course, I get extremely horny from sadism. I have also been in the mood for rough sex, but didnt have anyone there that I could fulfill that with.

So, I went upstairs to where my friend and his girls were, and they had picked up a new couple to the party. The female part of the couple was sort of kneeling on her knees, but bent over, so her breasts were really shown off. She has beautiful breasts with very long and suckable nipples, and creamy skin that I loved to lick and kiss. To make it easier, this woman was in white underwear. The other girl was in red underwear. She also has beautiful breasts, short “freshly fucked” hair (that just makes most women seem more beautiful), and the ability to orgasm without direct stimulation, just a verbal cue.

So, it started out with me enjoying the view up close, touching both of the women, just soft touching and slight nipple tweaks. The red underwear’s boyfriend motioned to me, and said to whisper “cum” in her ear. I leaned over, grabbed her hair, and said “Cum.” She did, of course. That instance brought me more into the other girls, and all three of us were licking, biting and sucking on each other. We moved on to the bed, the girl in red had a few more orgasms; the girl in white discovered my piercings and loved them! Since I was both giving out some pain and accepting some from her, she asked which role I preferred to play. I said, “For you, you are so beautiful, I would be whatever you want me to be.” We then discussed with her Dom about how hard it is to find people that you are comfortable switching with. We then learned that she had never had an orgasm through a vibrator, so we retired to a bedroom to introduce her to the Hitachi (the best sex toy ever

In the bedroom, we put the girl in white on her back, with me on one side, the girl in red on the other, and the guys were down on the lower half. Us girls were all kissing on each other, sucking and biting nipples, rubbing over each other, basically sensual stuff (with biting). After we had been playing a while, she wasnt cumming with the Hitachi, so I reached down there with my fingers to provide extra stimulation. First, I played around the clit to de-intensify some of the vibrations, then inside her pussy to play with her GSpot. I had forgotten what a cool experience it was to have my hands inside a woman. It felt amazing.

Eventually, she got tired of the sensations, and we stopped. I dont think she came, which is a big shame Then, it was my turn!

Honestly, I do not remember most of it! I didnt have an orgasm, but I was at that point just underneath it, where everything felt pleasurable. I’ll hit the highlights, in no particular order.

Biting. I have to remember that telling a vanilla that I like it rough will get me almost what I want, whereas telling that to someone into BDSM gets my nipple very very sore! (In a good way, just slightly harder than I usually like it). She bit me. Hard. Bit my nipples, bit my thighs, even bit the top part of my labia right above my clit. Man, that hurt, but in such a good way.

Using the Hitachi like a strap on. There was a point that she was leaning over me, probably to bite my nipples, and had the vibrator sandwiched between us. Add a little rocking motion, and it was very very nice.

Almost fisting. I define fisting as wrist deep, what I was able to do with my ex girlfriend. So far, no one has succeeded in doing that to me. This woman got the furthest, just slightly past her knuckles, but it was still kinda painful. However, I had her boyfriend and another playmate of mine distracting me by biting my neck and playing with my nipples, so that helped. Also, being able to grab onto her boyfriend and brace myself was very cool. So, I guess I’ll only be fisted in a group situation Which can be nice!

I think thats it!

Originally posted January 5th, 2007

My friend invited himself over to cook me breakfast/lunch. Wonderful dish of balsamic vinegar glazed chicken breasts with pasta. It was really good! I may have to get balsamic vinegar to try cooking with it.

We started off casually, on the couch. I really wasnt planning on things happening. Honestly! We had a few discussions about how he found me attractive, and how we shared the same views on sex and having fun with it. I ended up with my head in his lap watching the Simpsons, then it went to touching, and it went from there

So, the touching clothing turned into touching skin, which turned into showing off the nipple piercings, which turned into biting and kissing Which, ahem, turned into me squeezing his cock while he rubbed my clit. Nice!

He is also slightly into CBT (well, CT, doesnt like pain in his balls) so I got to give a lovely blow job, in which he was controlling the speed and depth of penetration, yet I was able to use my teeth. I love switchy type play like that!

He ended up giving me an orgasm with his fingers. He said that my wetness was getting halfway up his arm (probably more from the motions rather than ejaculation). We cuddled for a little bit, then he jacked off and came on my back. Its been quite a while since Ive had cum on me, so that was nice.

I have been in the mood for really rough sex recently. Throat grabs (not cutting off air, just slight pressure), biting, being held down, fast and hard pounding, etc. This guy is open to most of it, so I think as the sexual relationship develops, I might get more of it!

Previously posted December 19, 2006.

It started out with breakfast this morning. I was chatting with a new guy I had met, and we discussed his particular fetish. Nothing that I havent heard of, but it was something that I would be interested in trying. So, I had been horny for a few hours before Current came over.

I met him at the door with a tiger print silk dress and purple cat ears I was definitely in a playful mood, and it showed. My roommate had moved out the week prior, and I wanted to fuck on the couch. After a brief makeout session, and discussion about suitable landing materials, we commenced fucking. When we tried to change positions, he lost his erection.

No worries, we moved into the bedroom. From there (interspersed with non-sexual conversations), we proceeded to have the most amazing manual sex ever. He had his fingers in me for the good portion of an hour. He would hold my hands above my head while he kissed and bit my upper half, going from nipples to underarms and breasts, to my neck, each time feeling my pussy contract as he alternatively tickled and caused pain. I was in my gushing stage (I tend to gush before I orgasm, not at the same time) and was amused at the juice droplets hitting my thighs from the vigorous thrusting.

His arms were tired before I orgasmed, so he took my blue vibrator and proceeded to fuck me with it. Nice deep hard penetration, all the while still holding my hands down and biting me. Mmmm, it felt awesome! He was down between my legs with an awesome close up of the toy going in and out of my vagina, watching how it reacted. His own personal and private porno!

I still was not orgasming, so we took a short break while we talked about mundane things again. After a while, I brought out my big Hitachi vibrator. No one else has been able to touch me with it because it has such strong vibrations. We had both the Hitachi on my clit and the big blue vibrator going in and out of my pussy, and I finally came.

It was an awesome orgasm! The hours long build up, combined with not having masturbated for almost a week, and having a manual orgasm instead of an intercourse one lead to the laughing! He said he wished he felt the levels of emotions that I feel during sex, because it was awesome how hard I laughed. He also said I smelled sweet while I was gushing.

But, alas, it shall be until the New Year until we get together again. Such is the life of a slut.

I am going to be buying hosting. I will also be transforming stacycat.com into something slightly different.

I have heard a few good things about GoDaddy hosting(mainly, good friends and my Partner have their hosting there). And my domains are from there. But, I am willing to entertain other options.

Musts that I want in Hosting:
Wordpress.org
multiple domains
good uptime
ability to have a commercial site
ability to have adult content/pornography
Easy to use interface
Reasonably cheap

Wants
Ability to pay in a lump sum for 6 months or a year and/or discounts for paying in a lump sum.
Possible to create a “members only” area on multiple domains.

Is there anything that I am missing that I should have on either list? Do yall have any other recommendations on hosting that I should look into?

STI Stigma Rant

My Kink For All #kfanyc presentation is up! Yay!

Basically, this is a 20 minute discussion about STIs, how they are viewed in sex positive society, and how things could possibly change. I am still working on a much more succinct way to present the topic, but it is necessarily complex and intrinsic.

I have also signed up to help unorganize #kfanyc2 . While I cannot devote much time to this until May, I am on the lookout for places to hold the event I loved The Center, and it is certainly a possibility, but I want to explore other options. I will gladly take other suggestions.

More on this topic later

Was FUCKING AMAZING.

Lets see, a quick recap. (Previously posted on my Live Journal, but slightly edited )

I instigated my second orgy in two months.

I played sexually with two beautiful women. One of which I may get to play with again

I fucked a huge cock with a woman’s hand inside my ass.

I let said huge cock fuck my ass, and I was able to take it. It was also his first time for any sort of anal play, and it was awesome. I now understand the need for deeper anal lube.

I had a horizontal rope suspension with a famous BDSM presenter. I loved it, and want to do more.

I got to beat up a pain slut.

I got to do a three top spanking scene.

I got to see and experience an absolutely amazing presenter, and participate in something that very very few people will ever do or conceive of.

I flirted with lots of people.

I bought fucking awesome spiky boots. Pictures coming soon, I promise.

I also bought Opening Up, and had Tristan sign it. I also mistook Tristan for a girl in my class.

I did a lot of talking and thinking about the scene and BDSM and submission. I was talking with a dominant from the above mentioned spanking scene about my current state of mind. Basically, I would like to take a step towards submission within a relationship, but I am not sure if I can handle it, either physically or emotionally. This dominant made the very practical recommendation that I try it, and see if I enjoy it. If I do or I dont, I have learned a very valuable lesson. The presenter afterward suggested that which scares us most is probably the very experience that we need to attempt. Thus, I will attempt it.

I cried with the needle play that I was seeking, which has led me to my realization that I really need to find a professional to help me deal with this. I have a few feelers out for kink and insurance friendly therapists in the area. (The answer is not “just stop playing” as I think the underlying reason, whatever it is, is affecting other portions of my life. Its just that physical pain will bring it out much faster than emotional work will.)

In short, it was fucking amazing. And, since then, I have now used “fucking” far too much as a descriptor.

If you would like more in-depth information about any of these items, drop me a comment and I will write more extensively about it!