StacyCat’s World of Thought

Originally posted January 5th, 2007

My friend invited himself over to cook me breakfast/lunch. Wonderful dish of balsamic vinegar glazed chicken breasts with pasta. It was really good! I may have to get balsamic vinegar to try cooking with it.

We started off casually, on the couch. I really wasnt planning on things happening. Honestly! We had a few discussions about how he found me attractive, and how we shared the same views on sex and having fun with it. I ended up with my head in his lap watching the Simpsons, then it went to touching, and it went from there

So, the touching clothing turned into touching skin, which turned into showing off the nipple piercings, which turned into biting and kissing Which, ahem, turned into me squeezing his cock while he rubbed my clit. Nice!

He is also slightly into CBT (well, CT, doesnt like pain in his balls) so I got to give a lovely blow job, in which he was controlling the speed and depth of penetration, yet I was able to use my teeth. I love switchy type play like that!

He ended up giving me an orgasm with his fingers. He said that my wetness was getting halfway up his arm (probably more from the motions rather than ejaculation). We cuddled for a little bit, then he jacked off and came on my back. Its been quite a while since Ive had cum on me, so that was nice.

I have been in the mood for really rough sex recently. Throat grabs (not cutting off air, just slight pressure), biting, being held down, fast and hard pounding, etc. This guy is open to most of it, so I think as the sexual relationship develops, I might get more of it!

This was written in response to Rona’s Post about STIs. It got far too long for just a comment, so I posted it here. As always, feel free to disagree and argue with me.

I think that everyone should set their own boundaries regarding safer sex. I also think that is important to discuss these boundaries with partners and potential partners. I think that people who think that “oral sex” is completely safe are deluding themselves and they should educate themselves.

However, I, personally, do not require barriers during oral sex for most people. Sometimes I do, and this is one of the reasons why I love queer play parties is because they are expected. But, the majority of the time, I do not use them. I use condoms for vaginal and anal intercourse, and everything else is up for negotiation. I also play at the highest rate of safer sex required by all of the people involved. I think that oral is a low enough risk that I am okay with getting an STI by not using barriers for oral.

(Which is my basic premise of safer sex, which is to know the risks, and choose what you and your partners are comfortable with.)

I also think that *everyone* is responsible for educating themselves about the risks of STIs, and to set their own levels of play that they are comfortable with (and that their partners are comfortable with.) These risks vary by person and couple and group. It is not that one is more or less “safe,” it is that the individuals involved have made a choice. Hopefully, it is an educated one.

Some are comfortable with having sex with someone with herpes (I am as well depending on circumstances), and I know several people who would think that is inherently unsafe. I know people that require tests from their new partners, but have a very extensive fluid bonded network. I know people like me who have unprotected oral sex. I even know people that think that *I* am an unsafe risk because I use condoms for intercourse, and that if I did not use condoms I would *choose better partners* and thus be at a lower risk. (BTW, the latter came out of the swinger community, which is one of the many reasons why I left that scene.)

In short, we all take sexual risks. Some of us are just comfortable with more and/or different risks.

I started a while ago thinking about how to improve myself as a sexual partner. And, I did a lot of mental thinking of how to improve my blow job skills.

I would like to learn how to deep throat. I would love to find a partner that is 1) long enough, 2) patient enough to help me, and 3) both nice and mean enough to force me.

Ive been with a few guys that I have attempted to do this with. But, none that experimented with positions with me.

Of course, a guy that will fuck me afterwards is nice as well